“I’m just not ready yet.”
Dammit, dammit, dammit. If I could figure out a way to get paid for every time I’ve heard that….
I’m not ready to start. I’m not ready for a relationship. I’m not ready to commit. I’m not ready to let go.
“Why the hell not,” I want to ask? “What are you waiting for?”
We’ve got our reasons. And generally they fall somewhere in the range of, “I need to work on [insert Your Thing Here]…”
We look in the mirror and say, Get confident. But the inner dialogue? Have more padding in the bank account. Read ten more books. You’re not ready yet.
When it comes down to it, we want to feel like we Have Our Shit Together.
And really, who doesn’t? We want to present a put-together face to the world, to our potential partner, to our employer, to our family. We want to feel ready. We want to get confident. We want everyone to see our swagger and think, Damn, look at her. She’s so on top of her game.
Or perhaps, we just want to feel like we’re just as on top of our game as everyone else.
It feels logical. Rational. Completely reasonable, and totally supported by the culture we’re immersed in. Like that logic that says we can’t leave the house without mascara because ohmygod someone might think my eyelashes aren’t giant and voluptuous ALL THE TIME.
And then… Then never comes.
We keep running. Improving. Learning. Growing. But there’s always more, and we still don’t feel ready.
It’s because THEN insinuates Perfection. It insinuates an end point. An arrival.
So what are your options? I mean, really, goddamn, you want me to do it NOW?!
We can put off fully living forever if we want to wait until we feel like we’re ready to show up as the perfect partner. Until we feel like we’re an expert in our field. Until we feel 110% Hot Shit Confident.
That means living in fear that we’ll never get there.
Instead? We can keep growing and changing and evolving while we keep moving forward. One foot in front of the other, continuing to move toward the life we want.
Every single one of us is convinced that we’re a damn hot mess. Really? We’re all evolving. We’re all learning.
So when it’s time to go on that date, or ask for that promotion, or make the career shift, or take the leap, ask yourself this one, powerful question:
What would my wisest, most badass confident self do?
I don’t think you’ll find that the answer is, “Keep waiting.”
You’re more ready than you think.
You’re more prepared than you’ve convinced yourself you are.
Keep growing, but keep going.
You’ve got this.